History,
for individuals like myself, is a melancholy tapestry woven in threads of
struggle and laziness; success and failure; joy and sorrow; heroism and
cowardice – the entire gamut of the human experience. Consequently, I view
commemorative events, like Memorial Day, with very mixed emotions. I often
think we civilians tend to abuse the word “hero.” Joining the military does not
necessarily make one a hero. Dying in a senseless act of murder, like the
horrific destruction of the World Trade Center, does not necessarily constitute
heroism. Dying in a tragic accident does not necessarily translate into
heroism.
Heroism
involves doing something extraordinary in the face of insurmountable odds and,
often, at the risk of one’s own life or career. I often think we civilians use
the word to assuage our private guilt over having not served ourselves. Heroes
often find themselves in the wrong place at the wrong time and do what is
right, nonetheless.
Who
are my heroes?
My
Mom, Rita Marie Priest, who protected us from a very hostile home environment,
who clung to her faith in the face of mockery, and who saved our lives by
divorcing our father despite facing excommunication from the church she loved.
My
grandmother, Florence Beryl Tresselt, who despite being married to a man of
very questionable character, persevered, raised us to do what was right, and taught
us to never blame God for what happened to us.
Corpsmen
and medics, who in the face of certain death, and put their own safety aside to
save the lives of the wounded.
Those
disabled persons, who despite debilitating physical conditions, struggle every
day to overcome their circumstances, and who encourage those around them to
savor every day of life.
Those men and women in
the military, law enforcement, and public safety who, in the face of possible
injury or death protect and save those in peril, most of whom they do not know.
Teachers, who during
the performance of their “normal” routine have died or been injured while
trying to save their colleagues and/or students from eminent peril.
Parents and guardians,
who willingly give of themselves, their hearts, their time, and love to their
children, knowing that it may never be reciprocated.
Politicians, who,
regardless of political affiliation, and despite knowing that their stance
will, in all likelihood, cost them their careers, do what is right for those
whom they represent and for their country. Those individuals seem to be in
short supply today.
Those plagued with
mental illness, and who are struggling every day to deal with life, who do not
wallow in self-pity and who fight its loneliness and stigma with determination,
humor, and dignity.
Real heroes will be the
last ones to recognize themselves as being heroic. They will often answer
queries as to why they did what they did with – “someone had to do it” – they
“did not think about it,” they just “did it” – “it was the right thing to do.”
Heroism comes from within and is born out of necessity and genuine love. Many
heroes recognize the bravery of others while denying their own. I suppose, it
is like “beauty in the eyes of the beholder.” The swan, which still sees itself
as the ugly duckling. Heroes do not ask to be heroes. Circumstances compel them
to step forward.
So, on Memorial Day,
remember those who touched your life in a very special way. Pay attention to
the personal heroes as well as the famous ones. Remember those extraordinarily
special people in your life who have sacrificed and endured so much to make
your life safer and better because it was the right thing to do.